You have to do it yourself. How true that is! Sometimes I get frustrated because I need some help around the house from time to time. Things like loading/unloading the dishwasher, or doing the laundry. I know I’ve spent countless hours demonstrating and teaching the men in the house how to do these things right. Trust me when I say I’m not being anal; if the dishwasher isn’t loaded correctly dishes come out dirty, or come out broken. If the laundry isn’t done right then I have clothes that are ruined – either from colors running together or from zippers and hooks snagging delicate fabrics. If I gently remind them that they need to be done “properly” I get a lot of negative feedback – like “if you want me to do it, then you have to be happy with the way I do it.” And then I reply “If you aren’t going to do it right, please just don’t do it at all.” And then they do it anyway – the wrong way! Very frustrating. I really do wish that if they were not going to do it right that they just leave it undone. I get tired of broken dishes and ruined clothing!
I can remember when my hubby and I first got an Internet connection for our house! We were so excited to be part of the newest technology! Back then, the only option for Internet available to your basic homeowner, was via telephone lines. It seemed lightning fast to us, back then. Now, dial-up seems deathly slow! I can remember, too, that when we wanted to go to a website, we had to type in the entire website address, including the “http://” and we always had to include the “www.” right after that. Nowadays, I don’t have to type in any of that code at the beginning of the URL, just the rest of the URL and the “dot com” or “dot net” or whatever the “dot” part is. That sure makes it a lot easier to find what I am looking for!
Sometimes I wonder if I had a previous life in which I died in a fire. My parents tell me that I’ve never been in a fire, but I have recurring dreams where I am traveling home and arrive home to find the house engulfed in flames. When I was a little girl and told my parents about my nightmares about the house burning down they would just “poo poo” my dreams.
I can’t recall ever seeing a fire extinguisher in my parents house anywhere. They carried one in their boat (I think it’s required by law) but I never saw one anywhere in the house. Do you think that’s odd? Come to think of it, when I go to my friend’s houses I never see fire extinguishers there either! I wonder if they are just creative and clever about hiding them. And I wonder if hiding them is a good idea!
I have one right beside my kitchen door, near the stove. I figure that is the most likely place that I would need to have one. No one in the house smokes, so there really isn’t a lot of danger about fires in other areas of the house. Come to think of it, a good housewarming gift for new homeowners would be a good fire extinguisher! I wonder if they would think it is too much of a “pun” between “housewarming” and fire extinguisher?
When I was working full time (actually working 50 hours a week,) taking college courses at night, and raising my two young sons (as a single mother) I found life to be extremely challenging! I could not afford to hire anyone to help me do anything. I was living hand-to-mouth. People would ask me “how do you do it all” and I would reply “it takes a lot of planning, a lot of dedication, and a lot of prioritizing.”
There is a lot more to life beyond just house cleaning when you are working and raising a family. You sometimes have to lower your standards, and sometimes you have to say “no” to people that ask you to help out with things that they want help with. I would have loved to be able to be the mother that was going to go on all of the class field trips and bake all of the cupcakes and cookies to bring to class parties. Unfortunately, there just were not enough hours in the day. That is why I am always supportive of any family where all of the adults in the family have to work when they are able to find ways to lessen their work load! If they have the resources to get help with anything that needs to be done to keep the household running, I am 100% in favor of it!
This past week I kept hearing very loud noises, like dynamite, and the house kept shaking. My hubby and I thought it WAS nearby road construction, and we talked about it a little bit. I told him that I thought that it could be some military exercises going on at Quantico, but he expressed his opinion that Quantico was too far away from our house for us to be able to be hearing and feeling those effects. A little while later, my sister asked me if I had felt the house shaking. She was concerned that it might have been earthquakes, and she was frightened! Understandably so, as there have been some earthquakes in recent years in the area.
I told her that I thought it might be the big guns at Quantico, but she also expressed her opinion that Quantico was too far away for us to be experiencing the sound and the vibrations. I told her that there was a lot of Facebook chatter about it, and that they said it was Quantico. I decided to do a little bit of online research on the subject, and discovered that there are some nearby military practice fields that are considered to be part of Quantico, even though Quantico itself is a long distance away! I found a website that talked about how Quantico WAS conducting training sessions with their big cannons that week, and an explanation that on overcast days the noise is louder and carries a further distance.
I showed that article to both my hubby and my sister, and told them what I had learned. I think that everyone felt a little better, knowing what was the reason for the noise and the vibrations!